I was talking to a friend about the show she gave as a performance artist and telling her how much I admired her bravery in giving such a raw performance. She said that stepping onto the stage was huge for her growth; as a perfectionist, she wanted everything to go perfectly. “I failed… many times,” she said. “But of course, that was my success.” I felt shivers.
That last statement was a big inspiration to me. Suddenly, I saw how often so many of us stop ourselves from doing the thing we love to do, just because …keep reading
I mentioned in my previous post that there is a lack of resources that can truly guide us to practice self-love. Perhaps you too have been hoping that a practical and inspiring guide on the subject of self-love would be available. If so, Lori Deschene’s new book Tiny Buddha’s Guide To Loving Yourself should come as good news.
This book is a gem. The author, who is the founder of Tiny Buddha (one of the most popular personal development sites on the internet), has compiled 40 inspiring and …keep reading
If you’re like me, you would probably roll your eyes when someone mentions the word “forgiveness”. Like “self-love and “being present”, forgiveness is a word we see everywhere in the self-help world. We know these concepts are important spiritual practices that will enrich our lives and lead to personal growth, but they’ve been offered so much that it’s become boring to hear it again and again.
The problem isn’t that forgiveness is boring, it is that it’s seldom elaborated beyond the …keep reading
“Where is the fountain that throws out these flowers in such a ceaseless outbreak of ecstasy?” – Tagore
One afternoon about a month ago, I looked outside my house after the gardeners had finished cutting the grass and was shocked to see that they had chopped off plenty of healthy plants. The tall plants in the middle of an open area, a number of short palm trees, the lush shrubs around the front of my house protecting my privacy… some of these plants I’d loved so much that I knew their individual leaves… they laid on the ground in piles waiting to be collected and disposed of. I took in the massacre before my eyes.
I was outraged. …keep reading
I was speaking with someone about the role of awareness in preventing the progression of negativity and found myself using the story of Rumpelstiltskin as an analogy. Since then I’ve been reflecting on the lessons we can extract from this fable about dealing with fear.
Most of you will already know the Brothers Grimm’s story of Rumpelstiltskin. It goes something like this:
A man boasts to the king that his daughter can spin straw into gold. The king locks the girl up in a room full of straw and forces her to do just that. Should she fail, …keep reading
People sometimes ask me, “What is the deepest, most important healing that must occur for me to break through my blocks?” For the serious seeker, one of the most powerful places to go in your healing is where you still hold resentment towards those who did you wrong.
I’m not talking about recent events but the most highly-charged incident in your earliest memory about being wronged. This is not a place that most people would deliberately choose to go unless it becomes …keep reading
I was in a session with a client at my centre the other day when I witnessed the precise moment when suffering ended. It was breathtaking. In that moment, I saw the endless grasping – the controlling, fixing, righting what’s not right, perfecting what’s imperfect, knowing what’s not known, searching for answers – STOP.
In my work as an addiction therapist, my job is to lead people to the edge of the door beyond which lies their heart waiting to awaken, and guide them to travel through …keep reading
Ever since the movie ‘The Secret’ came out in 2006, a whole new sector in the global self-help industry has blossomed. Suddenly, people were finding the message that we can create our own reality an empowering alternative to what they had put up with previously: being stuck, sick, poor and unhappy. Six years later, after countless of books, audios, videos, programmes and systems being produced to cater to a mass of people hungry for more info, more details, more …keep reading
Only three months into the year, and 2012 is already looking to be a widly adventurous and creative year for me. I am driven by a great enthusiasm to create – inspired by a curiosity to move into unknown territories. In the material sense, it has translated into me taking up projects that test the boundaries of conventional thoughts/methods – allowing me to explore insights, knowledge, wisdom that may yield more exciting ways for people to experience the world. It also allows me on a personal level …keep reading
In the horror film ‘Vanishing On 7th Street’ there is a scene where John Leguizamo’s character Paul is led into a tunnel. As he follows to the end of the tunnel, he finds himself facing a dead-end. He turns around and sees the light furthest to him black out. Then the next furthest light dims, and the next…. What struck me most was not the sensations the producers of the movie must have wanted to evoke in the audience, ie. to feel Paul’s increasing terror as darkness inches …keep reading